Almost everyone feels socially awkward at times. It’s partly generated by fearing we don’t know how to fit in with others, or meet social expectations. Tips to help with overcoming feeling socially awkward include
1. Recognize that most people feel that way at times – even if
they hide it, and they look quite confident. So your feelings are quite normal
(something many struggle with).
2. Pay attention to
your selftalk. Don’t criticize yourself. Be kind and understanding, and gentle
with yourself. Also, you need to be your own best friend – who there’s to say
that you WON’T fail!
3. Try to locate the source of your feelings. Is it because
you are in a new situation and don’t know what is expected of you? Is it
because you’re naturally introverted and shy? Is it because you’ve been bullied
or made fun of it the past? Is it because you feel you don’t belong, or haven’t
been accepted by the people you are with?
4. Attack and address the source of those negative feelings.
Especially work on accepting, valuing and thinking well of yourself. Also, making
small talk, being friendly and chatting naturally are skills that you can work
on, learn, and master over time.
5. Remind yourself these people are not your final judges!!!
Also, there’s no need to feel inadequate, inferior, or ashamed.
6. Expect things to go well, and focus hard on being
relaxed. Take slow deep breaths, and build a picture of picture yourself feeling
confident.
7. Try to act relaxed and confident (regardless of your
feelings) and you’ll find that you feel better, and less anxious and afraid.
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